Therapy is guided by you, but there are some approaches I use to help me understand you better.
Psychodynamic Psychotherapy & Counselling
Psychodynamic therapy seeks to help you to untangle the threads of you and your experience to allow you to understand yourself better.
Maybe you find yourself as an adult being desperately afraid of letting people down, feeling anxious and depressed, you cannot have a healthy relationship and you don’t understand why. Understanding that when you were a child you were taught that love was conditional on being good, and the people who cared for you showed you anger when you were less than perfect can allow you to heal this historic wound. Knowledge like this can be the key to unlocking the past from the present, helping you feel your feelings, and to help you foster a more healthy sense of yourself based in the here and now.
CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
Our thoughts and behaviours influence each other, and our feelings. By changing what we do, or our relationship with the thoughts we have, we are able to change how we feel about a situation, a relationship, or ourselves.
Perhaps you find yourself unable to attend social events after experiencing a panic attack. You reason, because you feel afraid it must be dangerous. Through therapy we work to understand anxiety and the body's fight/flight/freeze mechanism to help you to overcome your fears and regain control.
CBT informed Psychodynamic Therapy
In my experience it is rarely the case that a problem we have exists only in the here and now, or only in the past. A combination of CBT and psychodynamic therapy can lend itself well to allowing you the insight into how a problem might have started, as well as the action to allow you to tackle it in the here and now. I believe this way of working, and think it gives the best, long lasting results.
Perhaps you are worried about becoming a parent, you are plagued by fears of letting your partner down and not being able to look after the baby. By working to understand how this connects to your own experiences of being a child you understand why you fear things, your parents were very afraid of you coming to harm. Together with this, we work on helping you get to grips with a pattern of avoiding stressful situations, to build up your sense of yourself as someone who is capable and stronger than they think. Armed with this new insight and a new confidence in managing difficult situations, you feel better equipped for the challenges ahead.